How to become an interesting conversationalist wikihow. How to be an interesting person

“The strawberries and cream principle”: “Personally, I love strawberries and cream, but for some reason fish prefer worms. That’s why when I go fishing, I don’t think about what I love, but about what the fish love.”

(Dale Carnegie)

If you want to interest someone in you, talk about what interests him (speak the same language with him). The theory is simple and well known to everyone - but how to implement it in practice?

But in practice, it is useful to know that the sphere of interests of your interlocutor is divided into six categories: “people”, “place”, “time”, “values”, “process”, “things”.

Usually 2-3 topics out of these 6 are a person’s favorite topics - he will discuss them with great pleasure. The rest are not interesting to him, and cause him mortal boredom, - “Well, why talk about this? it doesn’t matter!”

To better understand how this is used in life, let's take a closer look at each type individually.

The cat caught the mouse:

- Do you want to live?

- And with whom?

- Ugh! Even eating is disgusting!

Favorite question: “Who?” People are important to him: who he communicates with, who surrounds him.

Such a person chooses a job based on what team he will join and with whom he will have to interact.

When talking about his vacation, he will talk first of all about the people with whom he vacationed and whom he met.

If he is invited to a party, he will definitely ask: “Who will be there?” He will ask because it is most important to him.

At the headquarters of the missile forces:

- Today we received an order to reduce staff by 10%. Is everyone clear?

- Yes…

- And now the details: I think we should start with Texas, Florida, Alabama...

Favorite question: “Where?” It is important for this person to clearly navigate in space. He usually has a favorite chair or favorite place at the table, to which he tries not to let anyone in.

When choosing a job the most important factor there will be the location of the office, and how much he likes his workplace.

When talking about his vacation, he will describe the places he visited and what sights his route passed through.

It will be meticulous to ask about “where the party will be held.” At the party itself, he will be interested in where he will sit at the table, in what place.

One Frenchman is asked:

-What do you like best? Wine or women?

To which he replies:

- It depends on the year of manufacture.

Favorite question: “When?” For such a person, everything related to time will be extremely important.

He selects a new job based on criteria such as a suitable work schedule, how long it takes him to get from home to the office, and the length of vacation.

He will tell you in detail the daily routine in the sanatorium where he rested, what time the train arrived, how many minutes the plane was late and all other details related to time.

Before going to a party, be sure to ask “when does it start? What time will it end? When does the last bus leave?

"Values"

- Doctor, will I live?

- What's the point?

Favorite question: “Why?” It is important for this person that what he does is valuable and useful. He looks for meaning in everything. Talks about his values and beliefs.

Such a person will be ready to work in a team that is unpleasant to him, in the middle of nowhere, spending a lot of his time on the road, if he believes that by working here he brings benefit to people, or some benefit to himself.

He will talk not about how he rested, but about why he went to the sanatorium, what it gave him: “I improved my health, spent at least a little time with my family, made useful acquaintances.”

Before going to a party, he will ask, “How will this be useful to me?”, because the party itself is not of particular value to him.

"Process"

A big lazy cat sneaks home and thinks:

- Now to the tank, from the tank to the fence, from the fence to the pipe, along the pipe to the roof...

At this moment, the pipe underneath him breaks away from the wall and begins to fall.

Cat (indignantly):

- Didn't understand!..

Favorite question: “How?” It is very important for him how he will do something, the sequence of actions that need to be performed. Often uses verbs in speech.

The most important thing for him in work is that the process itself gives him pleasure.

Talking about a vacation: he will describe the sequence of events, day after day: “in the morning we sunbathed on the beach, after that we had lunch, then we slept, then we went to the pool.... The next day we went on an excursion, after that...”

He will be interested in the whole scenario of the party, what will follow what: “and after we have dinner, what will happen? And after we dance? And after we drink tea?

A customs officer looking into a passenger's suitcase from an arriving flight:

- So, dear, let's decide where your things are and where are mine.

Favorite question: “What?”. Such a person pays a lot of attention to things and objects. Often uses nouns in speech.

When choosing a job, he will look at the objects that will surround him: a computer, an office desk, a room... It is important that he likes it.

He will tell in detail about the things that surrounded him during his vacation: “the pool was good, the beach with sand, double rooms, with a TV and a refrigerator...”

He will definitely ask “What will happen at the party?” If it is important for a person of the process type to hear “first we will have dinner, then we will dance, then we will drink tea,” then for a person of the “Things” type it is important to hear “there will be dinner, dancing, tea drinking”

Now the question is “What should I talk to him about?” The solution is quite simple: after listening to the person, you determine his favorite topics, after which you talk to him, trying to fall into the sphere of his interests. If these are “people,” then talk about people. If this is a “place”, then ask where he was, tell him where you yourself are going to go...

To make sure that such an adjustment is important enough, try a couple of times to specifically “outline” the person’s interests. He tells you, for example, “about the people he met,” and you ask him a question from another area: “where did you meet them?”, “When was that?” The person’s reaction will immediately tell you that it’s better not to do this (except for cases when you need to quickly interrupt the conversation)

To test yourself how well you now navigate this “typology of interests,” try answering the questions in the following tests.

Test No. 1

Read what 6 different people say about their vacation. Based on them, determine the type of interests of each person.

Person no.	Statement	Type of interests
	“...Is this really a vacation? Only 12 days. And then: 36 hours to get there, and the same amount back. The only joy is the sea 5 minutes away..."
	“...The room had everything you needed: shower, TV, refrigerator, kettle...”
	“...I met Irina Vasilievna there. The most amazing person! She has 12 children. The youngest one is called Anyuta...”
	“...I was on vacation in the New World, this is the southern coast of Crimea, 10 km west of Sudak. By the way, we lived 200 meters from the sea...”
	“...As soon as we arrived at the railway station, we were immediately taken to a sanatorium, fed there, and then settled into rooms...”
	“...I improved my health, and this is the most important thing. The doctors at the sanatorium were good. So, if you want to get treatment, this is the best option...”

Test #2:

Your friend doesn't want to go to your party. You still want to convince her to come. Decide which phrase you will use for which type of people.

	Statement	Suitable for people like…
	“...Listen, there will definitely be Lena, Katya, Misha, Sergey. Igor is going to drive up with two of his friends. Good company is gathering! Only you are missing..."
	"…Come! We have an excellent program: first we’ll have dinner, then we’ll look at photographs, then we’ll dance, and at the end we’ll discuss plans for the future...”
	“...You just need to rest. In addition, you will be able to make useful contacts. And in general, friendly ties need to be maintained..."
	“...You only have 40 minutes to get to me! And in the evening we will finish early, at about 11 you will be heading back. We haven't seen each other for 2 months!!! When will we meet again?..."
	“...After all, we are gathering not just anywhere, but at my home! Let's go to the lake, it's nearby. We'll sit you on your favorite easy chair..."
	“...You haven’t seen my apartment after renovation: new wallpaper, paintings on the walls, an aquarium in the corner, a stereo system...”

Test No. 3

You came to your boss to ask him for a salary increase. Different bosses need to make different arguments. For each phrase, determine what type of boss it will have the best effect on.

	Statement	It will work better on bosses with the type of interests...
	“...All the equipment is on me: computers, faxes, phones, printers, scanners, Consumables. And the amount of all this goodness is increasing and increasing..."
	“... I have to travel all over the country, now to Arkhangelsk, now to Yekaterinburg, now to St. Petersburg... I already know these cities better than my own home...”
	“...Now I have to work a lot with VIP clients: with Elena Vladimirovna, with Arkady Petrovich, with Ivan Vasilyevich... They are complex people, you know it yourself...”
	“...I come at 9 am, leave at 8 pm... I often have to work on weekends... if I have a vacation, then it’s for no more than a week...”
	“... First I find clients, then I persuade them to buy, then I sign the contract, fuss with the papers, then I organize transportation, then I resolve warranty issues... the process is complex, God forbid, where you make a mistake...”
	“... the principle is simple: you pay more, I work harder and better... as a result of the results of my work, you again get more money...”

Right answers:




	Values


Values		Values

If you answered more than half of the test questions correctly, then congratulations! We can assume that you have mastered such a difficult topic as “typology of interests”!

All that remains is to wish: use the acquired knowledge in practice more often. And then you will be an ideal interlocutor, able to find the key to any person.

“I craved connection—I wanted to talk to someone. Over time, I began to realize that I needed to do something to combat loneliness. If I continued to be alone in silence, I would simply go crazy.” These words belong to a man who spent five years in solitary confinement and was deprived of one of the most important human needs - communication.

Indeed, it is very important to speak! Everyone is built that way. This is an indispensable way of expressing feelings. For example, if you want your spouse to know how dear he is to you, you need to talk about your feelings. But for many, communication is not an easy task, it is a lot of work, which is often avoided.

What obstacles may arise on the way to the art of interesting conversation or communication? How to become interesting conversationalist?

He was talking to himself. An interesting conversationalist, though.
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Obstacles to conversation

1. Shyness

One of the most difficult problems on the way to communication. Shy people close themselves off from others. Why? Perhaps they were brought up in a culture in which they did not particularly communicate with each other, but, on the contrary, were separated from others.

2. Lack of self-confidence

Many people may spend years feeling afraid of looking stupid or being criticized. Therefore, they find it much easier to avoid talking to others.

3. Inferiority complex

This is the case when a person does not mind communicating, but considers himself an “incapable loser,” so he prefers to suffer in silence.

There is another side to the coin: many people feel free to communicate, but when someone else is speaking, they tend to interrupt, thereby depriving their interlocutors of the joy of intimate communication.

How to overcome these difficulties and learn to talk with others in an interesting and warm way?

Listen, be interested, be attentive

If you're at a loss as to what exactly to say, don't despair. You actually know a lot more than you think.

And if you often catch yourself thinking that no one wants to listen to you or that no one is interested in you, analyze how much you can listen. You don't have to talk all the time to keep a conversation going.

Both interlocutors must speak. In this case, you need to be guided by the principle: “Take care not only of your needs, but also of the needs of others.”

For this:

take an interest in those around you and their state of mind. Before talking about yourself or asking for anything, learn to ask about your interlocutor’s affairs, for example: “How are you feeling?” or “Is there anything I can do to help?”;
pay attention to the facial expressions of the interlocutor - it says more about the feelings of the other than his words.

A taciturn interlocutor can lead to despair, a talkative one - to crime.
Don Aminado

But what should you do if you are talking to someone who is not good at conversation?

Still, give the other person the opportunity to express their feelings. To do this, ask tactful questions. Let's say you're talking to an older person.

Ask him about how the world has changed or family life since his youth. In addition to the fact that you learn a lot yourself, you will make your interlocutor happy.

How to become an interesting person and develop charisma

In society, and especially among public figures, there are very often people who do not have a spectacular appearance or high status, and in general, at first glance you cannot say that such a person can be in demand in a team, have many friends and acquaintances. However, from the first minutes of meeting it becomes clear that this person is an incredibly interesting person who attracts people with his charm. In such cases, it is customary to say that the person is very charismatic.

There is a widespread belief that charisma cannot be developed as a skill, and that this character trait is given to people by nature. There is a certain amount of truth in this; a predisposition to charismatic behavior allows a person to behave more confidently, at ease and naturally, but this does not mean at all that those unfortunate people deprived of this gift are doomed to vegetate outside the social circle.

In order to take the first step towards becoming, you need to perform one simple action, which, despite its simplicity, is persistently ignored by many people. We are talking about developing a respectful attitude towards ourselves, we need to love ourselves, accept all our shortcomings and weak sides, and then try to focus on the benefits.

In self-love you should not look for selfish motives, because this is absolutely natural. Loving yourself does not mean exalting yourself over everyone around you; you need to understand that a person who is unable to love himself has no chance of earning the love of another person.

Only by beginning to respect oneself does a person become open to accepting love from the outside.

The next step directly follows from the previous one. Self-respect automatically increases self-esteem, and this is very important for successful interaction with others. It is impossible to become a charismatic person if numerous complexes, fears and other consequences of low self-esteem stand in the way. When you are around a charismatic and outgoing person, others also begin to feel more relaxed, relaxed and at ease.

A closed person, by his behavior, makes those around him feel awkward, and as a result, they try to stop communicating with such a closed person as soon as possible. There is no need to try to be someone else, because it is impossible to pretend all your life, and you cannot run away from yourself. It is much easier to be yourself, to stop being ashamed of your shortcomings, and this is a lot of work, which can only be done with considerable effort.

As you know, any skill develops through training. It is impossible to learn to cook well, play a musical instrument, or understand technology, only on the basis of theoretical knowledge. The same applies to the ability to communicate and win over others. To develop this skill, you need to communicate a lot with different people, preferably with strangers. Such training will help you develop the ability to quickly navigate a conversation, and a pleasant bonus will be the appearance of new acquaintances, and maybe even friends.

It is much easier for intelligent and well-read interlocutors to maintain any conversation, and therefore it is more pleasant to communicate with such people. You need to read a lot of literature on the most different topics, people very sensitively feel a well-read person and have respect for such a person.

Thus, we inevitably transfer a decent and fair attitude towards ourselves to the people around us. If the relationship is positive, then the return on interaction will be positive. You need to follow the golden rule and treat people the best you can to get the same in return, then no problem will arise.

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10 tips on how to become an interesting person and conversationalist

Pay attention to the people who belong to your social circle. Agree that some of your friends attract more attention, they are listened to more, they are sympathized with, while others remain unnoticed, even if they make attempts to be in the center of attention.

Obviously, few people will enjoy the company of a boring, constantly whining person who is behind the times. After all, during the communication process, the interlocutor wants not only to speak out himself, but also to gain interesting information for himself, and to recharge himself with energy from his partner.

In order to please people, you need to be an interesting conversationalist yourself. By following our advice, you will feel that your life is filled with colors, saturated with events, experience is accumulated, and your circle of acquaintances is expanding.

1. Become a good communicator

Learn to listen carefully;
Ask questions to your interlocutor, so you will demonstrate that his story really interests you;
Express your emotions about what you heard. For example: “I am outraged by his action...”, “how did you manage to do this...”, “it’s so wonderful that you did it all...”;
Keep the conversation going with interesting facts from life, books, articles;
No ridicule of the feelings of the interlocutor;
Don’t lecture, don’t insist, but advise and recommend.

There will be something to talk about with your friends.

3. Have your own hobbies

When you are passionate about something, your eyes light up, you are overwhelmed with emotions, you are full of energy, which is transmitted to others.

4. Experiment and share your results and experiences

It will be useful for others, you will be grateful.

5. Don't sit at home

Attend more different events (exhibitions, concerts, lectures, meetings, sports competitions). There you will definitely see something interesting, meet acquaintances, and perhaps meet someone. You will have many topics to discuss with your friends.

6. Register on social networks

Connect as a friend more people, even if you don’t know them closely, find groups of like-minded hobbyists.

Post it on your page interesting photos, join in discussions, express your opinion.

7. Connect with a variety of people

Don't be afraid to meet new people. Know that if you are active, you are interesting to other people. They want to listen to you, your opinion and experience are valuable and useful, don’t doubt it.

8. Be confident

Remember that you, with your characteristics, with your “cockroaches in your head,” are unique, and therefore interesting to others. If all people on earth were the same, we would all die out of boredom.

9. Play sports

Yes, it’s not easy, especially if you’ve never even done exercise before. But you don’t have to exhaust yourself with exercise equipment if you don’t like it and can’t afford it. You can start with brisk walking or running.

People who play sports are always more confident and energetic.

10. Look after yourself

The first thing that catches your eye is the person's appearance. Watch your clothes, shoes, hairstyle, makeup. Try not to be old-fashioned or dress tastelessly.

If you don’t like today’s fashion, you need to study the rules for choosing a classic wardrobe and follow them.

Remember that by trying to become interesting to others, you will first of all become interesting to yourself. As a result, your self-esteem will increase, you will no longer be visited by sad thoughts, due to the variety of interests and the workload of exciting things, you will have no time to cry, and there is no need. Life will be filled with colors and meaning.

Conclusion

Remember that no matter how difficult it may be for you to communicate with others today, you can always improve it. Don't forget that the best conversation starters are friendliness, tact and a good sense of humor.

Develop these qualities in yourself, and communicating with you will be much more interesting!

Supporting any conversation, supplementing the dialogue with facts, decorating the speech with successful phrases and quotes is an entire art that a person learns from early childhood. We learn to listen to the interlocutor, catch the thought and support him, using the information that we receive daily from the means mass media. It is very important to be able to correctly organize your thoughts and express them during a conversation. Public speaking makes us charismatic, knowledgeable and wise man. Let's find out how to become an interesting conversationalist and what you need to do for this.

Fighting the inner self

If you have at least one complex inside you, it can make you a tense and insecure person. An interesting interlocutor is, first of all, one who was able to carefully work on himself. If you are a shy, modest, cowardly and unlucky person, then this article is for you. Try a little experiment: take a piece of paper and mentally draw a line down the center. In the first column, write down all your positive traits and hobbies, in the second - all your fears and complexes. Take a look at the list and be surprised: after all, the first column will indicate at least 5 interests that partly make you happy. Every hobby can grow into something bigger and grander, which will ultimately overcome your complexes.

Proper society

You won't learn how to be an interesting conversationalist if you try to please everyone. Sometimes you don’t notice that you are surrounded by people whose hobbies are completely different from your inner self. This may manifest itself as ignorance on the part of the interlocutor or comments addressed to you that listening to you is uninteresting and boring.

First of all, analyze how much your worldview coincides with the surrounding society. Then just change your social circle. Don't know where to find it? Attend concerts, museums, sporting events, poetry readings, craft courses, or foreign languages. By translating your interests into reality, developing them, you will begin to notice how your environment is changing, amazing people appear in it who want and will listen to you with rapture.

If your partner is a man

Men love smart people; they like it when their interlocutor can support any conversation. There is no need to limit yourself to the fact that men are the stronger sex who are only interested in sports, fishing and cars. First of all, the male part of the earth is the same representatives of the human race who are interested in cooking, cinema, literature, and animals. To become an interesting conversationalist for the male half of the population, you should not pretend that you enjoy the dialogue, and do not try to extract any intricate facts from yourself. It’s enough to be open, win over your partner and don’t be shy about sharing your hobbies. Remembering this simple advice, you will learn the truth of how to become an interesting conversationalist for a man.

If your partner is a girl

Girls are the fair sex. They are mysterious and romantic, dreamy and fragile. Girls, as a rule, love with their ears, so you must find a certain approach for such an interlocutor. First, listen carefully to each story. If you're bored in the middle of a story, it might not be your partner. Secondly, not all girls love fashion, animals and photography. Many people are interested in fishing, hunting, mechanical engineering, and others are much more interested in better than men repairs household appliances. The principle here is simple: to find out how to become an interesting conversationalist for a girl, you need to be literate and well-read. You can impress a girl only with facts, knowledge and innovative thinking, and not just with beauty, strength and strong character.

Books for self-development

Many people start small and ask the question: “What books should I read to become an interesting conversationalist?” It is enough to understand that you must constantly develop, and for this you need to read literature, and watch scientific programs, and attend interesting events, and travel, and communicate with different people. In this case, literature will help you understand only the theoretical part of oratory, but no more. After reading the books, you need communication to learn how to hone your craft. We present to your attention the top 10 literary masterpieces that will help you understand human nature and look from the outside at ideal interlocutors:

What does it take to be an interesting conversationalist? Become more open. You won't be able to attract attention if you are closed in your cocoon. Open up to people, learn to trust them, don’t be afraid to talk about your hobbies, desires and dreams. But no one talks about being pushy and trying to win the hearts of everyone around you.

If you don’t know how to become an interesting conversationalist, then you will have to learn to talk about yourself. If you are tense and withdrawn, then a simple exercise will help you: write down stories from your life on a piece of paper, read them carefully. Try putting down on paper thoughts and feelings that you can't say out loud.

Don’t be afraid to express your opinion and defend your personal point of view, don’t be afraid to ask about your interlocutor’s business and give advice if asked. Be confident and proud, never lower your eyes and head. Don't be shy about complimenting and calling your interlocutor by name. By following all these tips, you will learn how to become an interesting conversationalist.

From the ability to find mutual language A lot depends on anyone. This is both career advancement and successful personal life, and a large circle of friends. But how to become an interesting conversationalist? What to say, about what and when? These questions concern both young people and experienced people. Let's figure out how to improve your communication skills.

You've probably met two different types of people. The former can easily join any team, calmly carry on a conversation and even entertain the company if necessary. For the latter, it is difficult to start a conversation with a stranger, it is difficult to select topics for conversation or speak in front of an audience. What is the secret of easy-to-communicate people, how to become an interesting interlocutor?

First of all, you should look at the type of temperament and character. People who move through life easily have a much simpler attitude towards many things. They are interested in many things, and they understand a variety of issues. With such a person it is not difficult to find a common theme for anyone. However, despite his erudition, such an interlocutor will never emphasize his superiority.

Another one distinguishing feature an interesting interlocutor - a subtle sense of humor. His jokes are able to defuse the situation, but at the same time they are not vulgar or offensive. Funny incidents from life, unusual analogies and the ability to laugh at themselves make such people even more attractive interlocutors.

How to become an interesting person

A versatile personality is always interesting to others. But how to become interesting person and interlocutor? No matter how hard we try to study the technologies of conversation and select interesting topics, without a deep study of personal qualities it will be useless. You need to be interesting first of all to yourself. You must not only study a lot and learn new things, but also be able to operate with these facts. An interesting person will not stutter while remembering historical event or a new joke. Train your memory and attention, this will help overcome communication difficulties.

What to read to develop communication skills

Many books, manuals and brochures are published every day around the world for those who want to master the secrets of positive communication. How not to drown in this sea of information? What to read to become an interesting conversationalist? After all, if you take the first edition you come across, you may be disappointed.

Choose literature that has already stood the test of time and taken its rightful place on the shelves. Classic works of psychologists, theorists and practitioners will be very useful for further development communication skills. Not only will you learn proper communication techniques, but you will also be able to understand people better.

The Internet provides a wide range of opportunities for self-education. But when choosing a resource to increase knowledge, be careful and critical. Pay attention to who wrote the articles, whether the author has a pedagogical or psychological education. This will allow you to weed out obviously false information.

Periodicals will also be useful for self-education in the field of communication. Articles in them undergo mandatory editing and are often written in collaboration with professionals. They definitely won't do any harm. You can even make a selection of clippings for yourself to make them easier to use.

Basic rules of an interesting interlocutor

Having studied the theory of communication psychology, you can begin to practice. There are several techniques that will answer the question of how to become an interesting conversationalist:

Taboo topics for conversation

Not everything is worth talking about and not always. If you are thinking about how to become an interesting conversationalist, be sure to study, but never raise these questions:

Politics - this topic is too complex and multifaceted. Especially international, because a variety of events are constantly happening in the world. People can hold many different points of view, and categorically expressing one of them can easily lead to unnecessary conflict and tension.
Health – this topic is considered intimate. Not everyone is ready to discuss the details of their last visit to the dentist. Moreover, it is considered indecent to publicly talk about your illnesses.
Personal life - people don’t like being pestered with intrusive questions. Topics such as marriage, having children, divorce, etc. are a personal matter for everyone. Discussing them is permissible only face to face and only with the closest people.

What to talk about

But then the question arises: what is acceptable to talk about? There are many topics for conversation:

Achievements of science, including new technologies: telephones, cars, etc.
Fashion, beauty, style - just don’t indulge in banal gossip.
Cinema, books, performances and other interesting events.

How to become an interesting conversationalist for a man and a girl

When developing relationships with the opposite sex, communication plays an important role. Often young people are looking for an answer to the question of how to become an interesting conversationalist for a girl. And ladies are interested in the same things about men. But recent research by psychologists convincingly proves that there are no big gender differences. Just follow all the recommendations given, and you will definitely have success with the opposite sex.

Throughout life, people often ask themselves deep questions, the answers to which are not so easy to find. Every person is inherently a thinker and a sage. We often create problems for ourselves that turn into entire philosophical dilemmas. We all wish for society and ourselves. What is needed for this? Probably, you should be an interesting and very inquisitive person who improves throughout his life and strives for his goal. How to be interesting to society? Let's sort this out once and for all!

How to change your life to become an interesting and happy person?

Try to constantly gain new knowledge, do not sit in one place. You probably have an acquaintance or friend with whom it is incredibly interesting to have a dialogue. Have you ever wondered why? Perhaps your interlocutor lives a very interesting and eventful life - he has many interesting stories and adventures, he boldly speaks out, smiles and gives the impression of a generous person. Believe me, you are exactly the same! You just need to unlock your potential. So let's start changing our boring life right now!

You need to radically edit your daily routine. And where, exactly, should I start? Let's imagine how you get ready for work: you get up in the morning, brush your teeth, have breakfast, get dressed, leave the house and go to work along the already familiar and boring route. Don't you feel like you've become a little robotic? Each step in this sequential chain is predictable, and this is a priori uninteresting.

Let's fix this! When you wake up in the morning, do some light exercise (jogging, gymnastics, aerobics, fitness). Physical training lifts your mood well for the whole day - you will always be cheerful and positive. Then we start breakfast - eat only those foods that are healthy and that you like. Very banal advice, however, if you act according to this plan, you will already eliminate a significant part of the negativity from the coming day. After the meal, we leave the house and choose the most unusual route for ourselves. You may be a few minutes late for work, but your emotional reserve has been replenished with new places and impressions.

Stop giving yourself over to "black mirror"

In the age of modern and information technologies people are no longer “alive.” No matter who you look at, everyone has gadgets with a set of rich and interesting functions. Undoubtedly Newest technologies have begun to make life much easier, and this is at least interesting, but smartphones, tablets and laptops are catastrophically absorbing our lives. Some people are simply addicted to devices, so this hobby should be limited to some time.

Also, you should not neglect real, live human communication, because this is where the answer to the question of how to be an interesting person and interlocutor is stored. Turn off your phone! Let it be for a few hours, a day or a week - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is to do it. There are limitless activities in the world waiting for you. Watch the sunrise with your friends and family, go to a Chinese restaurant, walk through the puddles in a constant downpour. All these absurd and sometimes infantile things make you more interesting as an interlocutor, friend or relative.

How to always be interesting? Be generous!

A truly interesting person always spreads the word to others. You must constantly share your findings with others. If you have managed to saturate your life with exciting events, then you should always take the initiative in narrating them. Sometimes those things that seem obvious to you will become a real discovery for your interlocutor. What you have long forgotten is something new for those around you. A sociable and generous person never forgets his ideas; they multiply with

Never put off important things until tomorrow. Courage and perseverance will turn your life into an endless series of exploits. A sad and boring person tends to wait, and he himself does not fully understand why. A happy person does not know what an “insurmountable obstacle” is! Go to those places where they are waiting for you, where you should find yourself: there is no point in sitting by the phone - call, waiting for an invitation is also not an option - invite yourself, turn ideas into events, help others, and life will become easier. This is how they become the soul of the company and the entire core of society.

Stop striving for the ideal, because it simply doesn’t exist! There is nothing perfect in the world, just like there are no “normal” people. Each person has a number of shortcomings, complexes and oddities. Some suffer from this, while others do not attach any importance to it. And which of them is right? Questions like these don't expect answers. You need to skillfully accept your own shortcomings and oddities, and sometimes proudly demonstrate them! This is the concept of personality.

An interesting person is always unique, because he remains himself! His pride and individuality demonstrate power and dominance within society. Stop apologizing for being different from others, because there is nothing wrong with that. Your views and values are unique to you and no one else; they should not be changed for the sake of public opinion. This does not mean that you should not give a damn about everyone, because in this case everyone will give a damn about you at the same time. This suggests that you are proving to society the validity of your own decisions: you express what you know, do what you know, and live as you see fit. And you don’t need a large niche for this - a small piece of land is enough to stick your flag.

How to be an interesting man when communicating with women?

Give the impression of a successful person who is not afraid of difficulties.
Give good advice and offer your help.
When dealing with women, behave like a real gentleman.
Never make overly vulgar jokes.
Try to express yourself in monosyllables as little as possible.

Tips for men on how to be interesting. It is very easy to take possession of a woman if you follow these rules:

Show and show your respect for the fair sex, they appreciate and feel it.
Never lie or say too much - a real man must be responsible for his words.
Remember all the little things and details that your interlocutor describes in order to further prove that her words are not empty for you.
Respect her boundaries that she has set for herself regarding your love and attention.
Show courage and fearlessness.
Give her subtle compliments.
Be yourself.

When communicating with people, it is extremely difficult for us to understand at what point we become boring, because we really talk about interesting facts and believe that this is the best thing to tell a comrade or friend about. If a person begins to look away and simply yawn, then try to immediately finish your story, perhaps he also wants to speak out. An excessively long story about oneself or a loved one quickly becomes boring; it is not for nothing that they say that the best interlocutor is a good listener.

How to win over your interlocutor?

How to be interesting in everything to keep the listener? Try to ask as many questions as possible to find common interests as quickly as possible. If you win, your dialogue will turn into mutual pleasure, where you will exchange experiences and experiences with great pleasure.

Three story rule

It’s rarely interesting for your interlocutor to hear about how many megapixels your phone’s camera has. People are always turned on by real life stories that once happened to you. Try to always have a couple of adventures in stock from personal experience, which are filled with emotions and exciting events. It’s not for nothing that society loves various dramas and reality shows. When telling your story, try to keep your interlocutor in constant voltage, so that he eagerly wants to hear how your story ends.

Is charisma important?

How to be an interesting and charismatic interlocutor? The definition of charisma has become somewhat ambiguous. People interpret the meaning of this word differently, putting into it the epithets that they themselves come up with. Some boldly claim that you are born with charisma, while others believe that it can be trained. But here interesting fact: in 1966, a team of British scientists conducted a study that found that during a dialogue, people pay only 7% of their attention to the meaning of the speaker’s words, and the rest of their attention is directed to facial expressions and gestures. From this we can conclude that good mood, a smile and explanatory gestures can increase the interest of your listener.